Godly Advice for Singles: It’s Not a Curse
I’m sharing godly advice for singles because waiting for a spouse is hard. You may have found this article because you searched for sermon topics for singles.
If you’re a single Christian and don’t want to be, that’s a lonely prospect. In your 20s, you’d certainly meet the person God has for you. Then, before long, you’re in your 30s and dare say your 40s. No one you’d actually want to marry arrived at your church, workplace, or marketplace.
Disappointing, huh?
So how can you be happy serving God as a single person? You’ve always believed that two can serve God better than one. Yet, here you are a family of one, not counting your pets. That hole in your heart doesn’t need to feel like an anchor weighing you down. There’s a solution to your heartache. You probably don’t want to hear this reminder but here goes.
Your deepest desire may be to find “the one.” Except, you’ve already found “the one”. His name is Jesus.
Hosea 2:19-20 – And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy. I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.
If He doesn’t seem like gold you’re digging for, then you’ve got a heart and spirit problem that you need to fix before ever thinking about marriage.
Godly Advice for Singles: Keep a Healthy Attitude
It’s easy to give up hope when years pile up without a Mr. or Mrs. at your side. You may even pray, “God I’m tired of being single.”
Here’s my relatable illustration of hopelessness. I prayed for a relative for 17 years before I saw a glimmer of promise. Then suddenly, like a whirlwind arriving out of nowhere, God came into this person’s heart dramatically. I was dumbfounded. I saw instant changes I’d prayed for ALL. THOSE. YEARS.
During that long period of waiting, did I want to give up praying? Yes! Was I disappointed when nothing seemed to happen? Yes. Was God working all along? Oh yeah! What is agonizingly long for us is a blip in time for God.
Because He doesn’t do anything halfway and sometimes people change slowly, you and I don’t see spiritual progress blossom. When hard hearts soften, you know that person connected with God. He doesn’t give up on others when we have long ago.
Let’s get back to—what’s so important about a healthy attitude?
Thinking about God is a healthy pastime. We learn how to cultivate love, settle strife, and nurture thoughts with our minds. Desiring to have the mind of Christ frees us from pondering on what’s not happened to what may.
Fueling passion for what God wants is healthier than meandering through a web of “I’m still single” thoughts. Get to know the truthmaker intimately and there won’t be room in your heart for frustration, self-doubt, and discontent.
Godly Advice for Singles: Don’t Focus on Being a Single Christian
What? That’s what causes you pain, right? How can you ignore singleness when it’s with you while attending a concert, reading a book, or listening to praise music? Marriage has many pluses for me but my relationship with God fulfills me the most. I sense a deafening chorus of “yeah buts” rising up to affirm your feelings of singleness.
Enemies of your heart shout there’s something wrong with you or God doesn’t want you to wed. Those in-your-face feelings don’t convey this message. If you aren’t complete in God BEFORE YOU MARRY, you won’t have anything to give a spouse AFTER YOU MARRY.
That statement may be a hard pill to swallow. Don’t kid yourself that marriage is easier than being single. Nope. Your Christian values may be nearly identical but your spouse may be a night owl when you can’t stay awake beyond 10:00 p.m. You may be a workaholic and he enjoys downtime spent at the park or a Christian concert.
God purposely created men and women differently so those differences complement each other. Your family backgrounds, experiences, and personalities all contribute to potential disagreements.
When you’re married, what one decides affects the other. This covenant arrangement is fruitful when both connect spiritually under God’s leadership to embrace strengths as well as weaknesses.
Finding balance as a single Christian prepares you to enter marriage whole rather than fractured. Remember, you aren’t half of anything.
Godly Advice for Singles: Enjoy Your Life
It’s true. Look around, not everyone marries. If God promises you that He has someone waiting in the wings, trust what He says. Even if it means marriage is decades away, you don’t need to experience the throes of loneliness or sexual temptation. Ultimately, every Christian’s focus is heavenward to be one with Jesus.
According to Jesus, earthly marriages are over once you reach heaven. To further clarify this verse, we don’t become angels. This scripture means angels are single.
Mark 12:25 – For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven.
Practicing and mastering self-control while single is the perfect training ground for when you do marry. Many singles own pets to overcome loneliness, spend time with others, or learn that alone time is when they pause, refresh, and reset. Plenty of married people are the loneliest people on earth because they never learned to like themselves as individuals.
Embrace singleness as a blessing instead of a curse. When you aren’t performance minded and aren’t afraid to be alone with yourself, you can have fun. Eat the chips from vanilla/chocolate chip ice cream or window shop and never buy anything.
Go to the wilderness or mountains like Jesus did to refuel spiritually. Hang out with a dog. They don’t care if you’re single or married. They’re ALWAYS glad to see you and shower you with love. With cats, they may purr one day and scratch the next (I’ve already learned that one).
If being single seems like a curse, rethink your position and identify the exact moment Satan challenged your self-worth and you believed him. Then, get on board with God.
Bottom Line
Thank God for being single and keep your eyes on heaven. Don’t see yourself as second-rate because you’re single or wicked for having sexual desires. Seasoned Christians know to combat sin and connect with God regularly (24/7). Together as the Body of Christ, this is our one purpose.
Matthew 28:19 – Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
We all train for the same thing whether single or married.